Sometimes I wonder that how does human nature really work. I mean sometimes we say we can’t do or live without a person but when fate brings us to it, when we are left with no choice but to live without their presence in our lives we somehow manage to do so. The question of how we cope after losing someone, to death or otherwise has always intrigued me.
Loss is quite an ambiguous term if you look at it objectively. It is also a very vast one. For a large part of your life you have been with someone, something, emotionally and/ or physically. One day, for them it all just isn’t the same anymore, what are the explanations to all this? The mere change of the face or place of a relationship can also be called a loss. The complete washing away of existence can also be called a loss. The mere losing of something small, even sometimes inconsequential can be called a loss. There are so many ways you can define loss, so many ways you can use the word, the emotion of loss. With loss also comes the feeling of loss of something that might have been, something that could have been.
Loss is nothing else but change, and change is nature’s delight
- Marcus Aurelius
From where I see it, a personal point of view to all of this is that most situations of loss cannot be fought; they have to merely be accepted. It is again in our nature to have a fighting instinct when it comes to something close to our hearts. Acceptance of something lost doesn’t immediately follow the loss occurred, we try denying, we get angry, we try to reason, we sometimes grieve, we don’t accept things that would change our life in a way we never imagined very easily. To put it simply we like to believe we are immune to change. So what do you do when you have to be ‘the big one’ and not fight reason but just respect it? What do you do when you want to hold on to something but at unable to do so? What do you do when you know a little more entry into the persons being will make it better, but you are locked out of it all? Such questions and many more crop up but not one seems to have an answer that explains the phenomena of loss and the subsequent acceptance.
Loss is nothing else but change, and change is nature’s delight
- Marcus Aurelius
From where I see it, a personal point of view to all of this is that most situations of loss cannot be fought; they have to merely be accepted. It is again in our nature to have a fighting instinct when it comes to something close to our hearts. Acceptance of something lost doesn’t immediately follow the loss occurred, we try denying, we get angry, we try to reason, we sometimes grieve, we don’t accept things that would change our life in a way we never imagined very easily. To put it simply we like to believe we are immune to change. So what do you do when you have to be ‘the big one’ and not fight reason but just respect it? What do you do when you want to hold on to something but at unable to do so? What do you do when you know a little more entry into the persons being will make it better, but you are locked out of it all? Such questions and many more crop up but not one seems to have an answer that explains the phenomena of loss and the subsequent acceptance.
Life is all about change, about self-determination, about acceptance and rejection, about survival. And somehow because of the unexplainable human nature life still always remains beautiful.
I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.”
- Walter Anderson
I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.”
- Walter Anderson
5 comments:
You think Big, little Woman. It's good.
However it's not as complicated as it can get if you apply too much thought to it.
I think the word LOSS in the current state of the world does have different meaning and perception by many. It is as in your last quote the writer says how you appreciate the one precious gift you have...life itself, determines how you will survive the loss.
I say this because yesterday in two different parts of the world, whole family died because of the loss of financial security incurred by the global credit crisis. People chose to waste life over the loss of money.
Got to know of your blog through Rohan..Refreshing to come across such deep-seated observation..Definitely looking forward to your next post..
loss. an interesting term to state the least. although most of your post seems objectively correct, to me, i think if you dont fight loss, youre feeding it. the only way to fight loss, as far is i see it, is gain- whether it be finding what you lost, or finding a replacement. loss is temporary, always, and you find anything. i truly believe that, and you should know that. never accept what youve lost. NEVER.
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r u from india- forums?
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